5. Coast to Coast

Moving to a different country (immigrating and travelling) has taught me a lot about detachment. 

Sharing the most incredible days, weeks, and months with people, knowing that we will eventually go our separate ways.
That sense of knowing can bring a beautiful kind of melancholy that makes me appreciate every moment while it unfolds, soaking it in, knowing that where I am, who I’m with, and what we are doing, will never happen again, and someday I will miss it.
When facing this reality, one can respond with:


1. Shut down, build walls, check out and leave before being left
or
2. Let it in with open arms, let go of the need to grasp

Free yourself from the fears of losing what you have, clinging too tight
Nothing is really here for us to keep, only to feel and remember.


When I was around 23 I went backpacking in Mexico alone.
Long story short, I ended up at a plant medicine ceremony, falling in love with someone, hitchhiking with a caravan to a psy-trance bush rave 5 hours away from where I was staying, hitchhiking on a sailboat up a lagoon, to find this boy who was living in the jungle, working as a sail tour guide.
We spent most of the next two months together living without internet,
phones, or electricity. We spent our days gliding on the water, swimming, singing, playing, cooking, dancing, and talking in candle light.
We both knew that things would eventually change, that I was going to
leave, and he had his own dreams. But for those two months none of that mattered. We enjoyed the simplicity of our life, went on adventures, knowing that it was the kind of love that is detached, free, unconditional.
The kind of love that asks for nothing but presence, knowing that each
moment in connection is something that transcends distance and time, lasting forever in ways outside our human grasp.
So I wrote a song about it:


Coast to Coast Lyrics:

Looking at clouds upside down from between your legs

The hair falls around your face

Forget the ticking wooden clocks and running out of days

This love will find a way


From coast to coast

From land to sea

The winds may change

This love will find a way


So count the constellations of the freckles on my face

And wish upon the brightest star

Draw a map that leads to just where you are

and this love will find a place


From coast to coast

From land to sea

The winds may change

But this love will find a place


So lay your head down now on the pillow case

And dream of blue birds over rainbows

With a rope tie forget me knots all around my waist

Take my love and keep it safe

Take my love and keep it safe